http://www.cineromance.com/ rss description rss copyright Our dreams are strange and mysterious because they follow a logic that is totally different from the logic of our human conscience and their language is also totally different from the languages we are used to. We are used to languages made with words, while our dreams' language is made with images, sensations and feelings.The dreams have an author: the wise unconscious mind, which is wise and has a saintly character. This is an organ that doesn't belong to the human being - it is given to him by a superior human conscience that has reached perfection and could be named God.The information and the guidance you have in dreams is always protective. The unconscious mind is always trying to protect your mental health from the attacks of the anti-conscience, the wild side of your conscience, which is primitive, violent and evil. It lives constantly trying to destroy the human side of your conscience through craziness in order to control your behavior, and this is why the unconscious mind lives constantly protecting your human side, sending you secret messages in a symbolic form, so that the anti-conscience won't understand its directions.There is an invisible fight inside you, between the wise unconscious mind that tries to save your humanity eliminating the poisonous anti-conscience, and this dangerous part of your brain and psyche that is so cruel and wild. You represent the human side of your conscience, the only part of your brain you have access to.The other parts are invisible for you, but they are fighting for you: the human conscience. The evil anti-conscience wants to destroy you completely and take your place, while the wise and saintly unconscious mind is trying to save you and transform you into a wise, sensible and sensitive human being, so that you may live happily forever.Dream Symbols which indicate great danger are the following:1. The Spider - If you see a spider in a dream, this is reason for alarm. The spider represents a great danger threatening your future. If you don't pay attention to various important details of reality and if you don't do what you must in order to solve an important problem, the consequences will be very bad for you.The spider is trying to show you that there is an invisible trap in the air. If you are not cautious, you'll die there.I have already explained to you that the dream messages have a protective character and that your worst enemy is the anti-conscience that tries to destroy the human side of your conscience through craziness.What does it mean? It means that this wild part of your brain is constantly invading the conscious field and trying to make you follow its suggestions. If you pay attention to them and you follow them, you start losing the notion of what you are doing and you also start losing control of your life and your behavior.This is how you start becoming a slave of the anti-conscience; in other words: this is how you become neurotic.Now, the spider may represent a danger in your daily life, which is also related to the anti-conscience. Everything that happens with you can give an opportunity to the anti-conscience to start influencing your thoughts and your behavior, while pushing you towards the labyrinth of craziness.The spider means that you cannot postpone an obligation, you cannot avoid taking action, you must do something urgently, otherwise you'll have serious problems in the future.You'll live in a hell because of the problems you'll have to face, or you'll regret very much for not having done the right thing when you still had the chance.The spider is a warning that protects you from being naïve and irresponsible.There are many other dream symbols that indicate great danger, but I cannot give you a detailed explanation about each one of them in a short article...I'm only going to mention them, translating for you their meaning, so that you may have an idea about their importance.2. Teeth falling - This symbol is one of the worst ones. If you see in your dream that your teeth are falling, this means that you are making a very serious moral mistake that could cost you your life, your mental health and happiness.3. You are flying in the air - This means that you are totally far from reality and your suppositions are absurd. You are an easy victim for the evil anti-conscience, because you believe in what is unreal.4. You are falling - This is a sign that you will have a very serious deception.5. You fall and you suddenly reach the ground and bump, jumping in your bed while you are asleep and dreaming, which may even make wake you up - This is a sign that the deceptions you will have will be of the worse kind. For example you will be betrayed, abandoned, lose everything you have, face despair, etc.6. A rat or many rats - The rats represent men or women (depending on your gender) that only want to take advantage of you, pretending that they love you. Be careful if you have a relationship with someone or you are thinking about having an affair with them, but you suddenly see a rat in your dream.There many other dream symbols that indicate danger. Unfortunately the wise unconscious mind has to show you all the dangers that threaten your mental health and happiness...You have to learn the dream language, so that you may understand not only that you are in danger, but also how to successfully solve all your problems, staying out of danger forever by eliminating the evil anti-conscience.You'll transform this primitive and violent part of your brain and psyche into a calm and wise part of your human conscience, being this way able to live peacefully and happily. http://www.cineromance.com/article/listing/450/articledetail.aspx Not all of the accepted ways in which Western education and society tend to form young people are fruitful or without danger, as declining values among youth in some Western countries show. Many are caught too early into the world of kaleidoscopic entertainments and material appearances, growing up within a cocoon of the humdrum consumerism. That is the opposite of creativity, a numbing and 'dumbing down' sub-culture. Demonstrative youth revolt against parental and other forms of authority in the shape of drink, drugs, violence, vandalism, and yobbish behaviour are not creative solutions and bring suffering in their wake for all involved, eventually. The rock and roll culture has, on the other hand, often been a healthy way to revolt against social emptiness and mere tradition... and it has creative artistic dimensions which many try to learn and express.It is a mistake to think of creativity as having to do only - or even mostly - with different forms of art. Though true arts require creative thought and expression, they do so no more than science, engineering, medicine and health care and a hundred and one other constructive human ways of life.There are a variety of various ways of breaking out of mind-sets and entrapments that are eventually unrewarding and hence useless or even destructive. Creative behaviour, however, is seen in revolt against trends in consumer society such as non-violent opposition to forces supported by powers-that-be that destroy our environment. Not without risk and cost, young people have combated chemical pollution, destruction of natural habitats, hunting for sport, inhumane treatment of animals in the meat and cosmetics industry, extermination of threatened land and marine species and many other very worthy causes, even against brutal opposition from parties with vested interests, authorities and national governments.Above all, the broadening of the mind through study, purposeful travel - preferably temporary living abroad, and the consequent expansion of one's understanding of relative values and cultures is important for development which can lead to creativity. Such personal experience is the great teacher for anyone who wishes to write, to study the human or natural sciences. http://www.cineromance.com/article/listing/449/articledetail.aspx Walt Mueller is the founder and President of the Center for Parent/Youth Understanding and has been working with young people and families for 31 years. As a result of his work with CPYU, Walt has become an internationally-recognized speaker and author on contemporary youth culture. He has written extensively on youth culture and family issues and is the author of many books. I had the privilege of spendingmany hours this pastweekend with Walt Mueller.Two years ago my church booked Walt Mueller to come speak to our community. As a member of the Student and Family Ministry Committee, we work with middle school and high school students and their families.We recognizethe need for parentsto try and understand today's youth culture. Listening to Walt's presentationsthis weekend mademerealize just how different it is for kids growing up today. One of thedifferences he noted;for those of us who grew up in the 60's and 70's, there was a more universal standard of what was "right" and "wrong."Then media in the 80'sbecame more "feeling" focused. Today the media leads us to believe everyone decides for themselves what is "right" and what is "wrong." Kind of scary to think about. Kids today are bombarded with marketing messagesthroughvarious forms ofmedia from the time they are infants. Our kids are not equipped to accurately interpret the messages they are receiving. We as parents need to take an active role in being informed of what our kids are watching on t.v., what theyread, and listen to their music. Another interesting point: Did you know that many other countries require "Media Literacy" as a course requirement in school. Other countries educate their children about the media. Theygive them tools and information to help them process and filter through maketing messages and the various forms of media today. When kids are not given the knowledge or information to help them process the thousands of messages they receive daily, they easily buy into what they hear, see and read.Left on their own, kids will try to understand their world by themselves or with the help of theirfriends.Have you noticed that marketers are trying to get our children to grow upand bemature beyond their years? The media can be extremely powerful.Here are Some Tips to Help You and Your Children Navigate Through Youth Culture TodayEducate yourself on today's Youth Culture. Go to the CPYU web-site above and look for resources.Watch for Parenting Education presentations in your community. Our church partnered with our local school district to bring Walt Mueller in to speak. Our school district has a Parent Engagement Network that offers a variety of educational opportunities on parenting and children, several times a month. Does your community offer education/resources for parents?Become aware of what your kid's are watching on t.v. Sit down and watch it withthem. Ask them questions.Do they believe what they see? Why do they enjoy that show? What do they think of the characters/actors? The behavior of those characters/actors?If there is something you see that is wrong or does not reflect the values you want to instill in your kids, talk about it. Be sure to point out the good as well as the bad (ie not just the bad.) Engage in a conversation with them. If you do not approve of a show, the content or the language, explain why (if it is not obvious to them.)Ask your kids about what they are reading. This can be books and/or magazines. Pick it up and read some of it. If you have the time, read the whole thing. Talk about the book/magazine with them. They may be glad that you are interested and want to share with you. Reading what they read can help you understand their world andgive youthe opportunity to help them process it.Listen to their music. Especially to the words. One of the advantages of the internet, you can almost always find the lyrics to songs. Again engage in conversation about it. Kids may not understand the meaning of a song. They just like the tune.After this weekend, I have a new awareness of youth culture with plenty more to learn. As a single parent, I knowthe above tipsmay sound overwhelming. Our lives are busy.My hope is that youwillcheck out the CPYU website. Become more aware of the impact the media is having on your kids. Begin taking steps to understand youth culture today and helping your kids naviagate through their world.The world today is a much different place than it was when you grew up. Do you really want them to buy into what the media tells them to believe and value? http://www.cineromance.com/article/listing/448/articledetail.aspx Are you thinking about hiring someone new for your business, as a nanny or babysitter, or for some other type of job around your home? Even the nicest contractor could be the one that puts your family at risk. You need to know the criminal background record of anybody that is going to be around your family or your business. Here are the reasons you should know the background of any new employee.1. ProtectionImagine if you hired a contractor to do a job that is going to take a couple of weeks and at some point you leave the person alone while your teenage daughter is around. What if the contractor raped her? What if it was not about your children, but about your belongings and you found out this person was stealing from you and you didn't even know it? You should never put yourself, your family, or your belongings at risk. Get the criminal background check done.2. Peace of MindHow much easier will you sleep knowing that your nanny has a clean criminal record? It will be much easier to travel with your spouse and know that your children are safe if you know what your nanny has done in the past. How much easier will it be for you to leave a new business employee alone at the office? If you know the background and know they do not have a criminal history, then it will be much easier for you to trust the individual with your business or your family.3. It is worth itHow much would you pay to keep your children safe from harm? What about to keep disaster from striking your business? These are things we cannot put a dollar figure on and will very much exceed the amount of a criminal background record check. These are very inexpensive when you compare them to what you could lose if you end up hiring a criminal that is not done being a criminal. You could lose your family, your business, or worse, your mind. http://www.cineromance.com/article/listing/447/articledetail.aspx You had your life all figured out and then he came into your life, you both had sex, and along comes a baby or babies. Before the children, he had promised to take you places, travel, have fun just you two. Reflecting back on those memories of being in love were at times sad, you remember how he used to treat you before the children and he remembers how you used to treat him. Now you both are overwhelmed with the baby's cries. There are those days you can't seem to remember what tasks you were supposed to complete, because your mind is retarded due to the baby's screams, the toddler's whines, the telephone ringing, blaring television and everything else in between. As I write, I think of the old "Calgon take me away" commercials. Calgon was a bubble bath marketed to women who were stressed. The women in the commercials were usually stay-at-home mothers. At the end of every commercial there was a woman who would be in the bathtub relaxing. Obviously, enjoying being away from the ringing telephone, crying baby and knocks at the door.I had my own personal cry about feeling as if my hopes and dreams had vanished now that I was with child. I actually put my cry on the backburner for years, before I let my tears flow. The idea that I was going to be a mother again when I didn't want to had not really struck me until one night when I had thoughts about the promises my children's father had given me during our awe struck days. He shared with me some of his bright ideas for places to go and people to see and I hung on to each and every one of them. It was his sales pitch and it was believable. But then the children came and the thoughts of yesteryear overwhelmed me and I let out a cry. The kind when you moan and sob all at the same time while reaching for some tissue to catch your runny nose and the tears falling from the corners of your eyes. "Why? Why do I have more children?"I thought (prior to the births of my third and fourth sons by someone else) that now I could really enjoy my life! I was finally content! No more pre-natal appointments, weight gain, delivery concerns, doctors, post-partum, diapers, baby food, 3 a.m. feedings, teething...yeah! Then I met someone new after divorcing the father of the first two sons and I fell weak into his arms! As we made love I lost my mind for a few minutes of pleasure. By the time I came to my senses I realized as I looked at the calendar that night, I had made love on a day I shouldn't. Cold chills ran up my spine and almost immediately, I didn't like the man I had just slept with, the "being in love" feeling had wore off. Later the same night, I felt a strange feeling in my body and somehow I knew that I had become pregnant. About two months later I would receive the confirmation that I didn't want to face. My waistband on my skirts and pants had become increasingly tight from one week to the next. I began to feel more moody and hungrier from each day. The nagging feeling of wanting to vomit seemed to never go away at least the first couple of months. I was pregnant and I wasn't happy! Luckily for me, my new partner, who I was engaged to, was okay with having children and never left my side. Fifteen months later we would have another surprise, and even still we managed to have peace with having our final child.So I share my initial feelings about my pregnancy, because I know what that feels like to have personal dreams and then have them dashed because of an unplanned pregnancy. I know what it feels like to have no one you can confide in and if you feel the need to, you fear that he or she will judge you. In the Christian Bible, God knew what he was doing when he told men and women not to have sex out of wedlock. He knew that we would struggle with the idea of whether we want to be with this person, let alone have a baby with him or her. He instructed us through his word to trust him and to obey him, but just like the Israelites we acknowledge him for a time and then forget about him until we are in trouble again.So how did I learn to cope with the idea that the father and I will not be doing everything we had set our minds to do prior to the children? I prayed a little harder and I asked God to direct me to the plan he had for my life. I used my free time to watch Christian programming, attend church, read the Bible and self-improvement books even in my sin. I didn't reason that I should run back to God once I became clean like so many who have backslidden do. I needed him right then in my mess and to this day he continues to answer my prayers.Whatever time I had available I used it to do something related to my dreams. I got back in touch with myself. I read books about anything I didn't know about as it related to issues that came up in my life. For example, if I want to know about menopause, mid-life, dementia, dieting, raising children, or how to write a screenplay, I read about it. Then I created a file folder in my mind on how to best use the information I obtained to help myself and others in the future.Time was and is always an issue. There were and still are times that I have a tug of war with the children when it comes to my free time, but I refuse to give every moment I have free to my children. If they are bathed, fed, and entertained, then I could do something for myself. Yes, they would cry, but the cry inside my mind and heart is sometimes louder and I give myself permission to step away from the stress. I utilize every invention created for a child I can to help me obtain my space when I need it. Johnny Jump Up, play yards, walkers, swings, building blocks, and toys with lights, sounds, moveable parts, etc. I demand that my needs be met and when things get too bad, I take people up on their offers of "Can I help?" which come once in a blue moon, I say, "You sure can!"I keep myself open to learn about new things from parenting strategies for things like temper tantrums to cooking chicken in more ways than my mother or grandmother could ever imagine. What keeps me going on my bad days is a quote taken from the Christian Bible, "This too shall pass." I also envision what the future will look like when it's just my partner and I and the children are gone to live their own lives. We will be able to finally do the things we want without the children!I know that children grow up and move on with their lives and when they do as parents we should be progressing in our own lives as well. There are far too many parents I have noticed in my life that have nothing better to do, once the children leave the nest, then to stay at home waiting for their children and grandchildren to come see them, call them on the phone almost every day wanting to know every detail of their lives because they have no life, or spend long hours in front of the idiot box drowning in regrets. Mothers cry enough in their young lives over their haves and have-nots, by the time they become older they should be crying happy tears! Grateful that they are now free to live their life how they see fit! http://www.cineromance.com/article/listing/446/articledetail.aspx After a divorce, dealing with birthdays can be challenging for many families. It is especially difficult when parents are just working out the details of their parenting plan.It's perfectly normal for parents to feel a little possessive or even competitive about the children's birthdays. They often feel like they need to create the best birthday celebrations, in order to help the children overcome the loss caused by the divorce.The best thing you can do for your children's birthdays is to avoid conflict over the whole thing.Here are some ways that other families deal with birthday celebrations:The parents alternate being with the child on their actual birthday, from one year to the next. This is a very common way to handle the issue, but is not the most satisfying for the child. When children are in school, birthday celebrations are often planned for the weekend before or after the actual birthday. If the parenting schedule is interrupted for the actual day of the birthday and then the birthday party needs to be scheduled in an awkward way to fit into the parenting plan, children often feel frustrated that they don't have any control over their special day.The parenting plan does not change. Each parent celebrates the child's birthday during his or her regular parenting time. This works well when the parents share parenting time on a liberal schedule, even if it's not 50/50. Children get to see each parent on or near their birthday, without the schedule feeling forced or disrupted. Children generally like this plan and parents find that the time tends to equalize over the years.The parents share the birthday. One parent has time in the morning and the other in the evening, or one for an hour or two in the early evening and the other a little later in the evening. This kind of arrangement is definitely kinder to the parents than to the children. Neither parent has to be left out, but the birthday child spends more time moving around from place to place than actually enjoying the birthday. Children are very resistive to this kind of plan, especially as they get older.The parents celebrate the child's birthday together. Whether it's on the actual birthday or for the birthday celebration, the parents are there together. When the parents can be cordial and respectful of each other, children like this arrangement. They feel like they are the one who's really important and that the parents are working together to make their day special. Parents who cannot be in the same space with each other without fighting should not consider this kind of arrangement.Each parent has a separate birthday party or celebration during that parent's parenting time. This scenario is not recommended; it often makes children very uncomfortable, especially if each parent is trying to outdo the other by having the "best" party. Most children understand that this kind of competition is not about them or what they want. But they will often go along with the parents' plans because they don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. The stress for the children in this kind of situation is compounded when each parent invites the same friends to the separate parties, which can be embarrassing for both the birthday child and the friends.However you plan to celebrate your child's birthday, it's important to consider the child's feelings before your own. Children probably won't even remember each individual birthday event- unless of course, it was filled with the pain and anxiety of trying to smooth over conflict between his or her parents. http://www.cineromance.com/article/listing/445/articledetail.aspx Valentine's Day is for romance and for falling in love all over again with your partner or loved one. It is a day that you should celebrate with someone special in a way that is unique to both of you so you can renew the old loving feeling you use to have for each other when you were first courting.Or if you have just meet what better time to take this opportunity to be together and celebrate Valentine's Day so you can let your love grow and flourish into something beautiful that you will always remember and make it an important day that you will cherish for ever.There is a difference between young love and old love. Young love flares up and shines in a light hearted glistering sometimes unpredictable way. Where as love of the older people has a deep burning glow about them. When you are truly loved by someone you feel strong and secure and when your heart is full of love for your partner it gives you courage.The feeling of love is beautiful it can not be seen but only felt in your heart. Valentine's Day is a perfect day to take your relationship to the next level and explore each other in ways you have never done before. You can move from gazing into each others eyes to discover the deeper meaning in your relationship with each other. However make sure that you make it a joyous and fun experience for you to remember for a long time. http://www.cineromance.com/article/listing/444/articledetail.aspx Valentine's day is nearly upon us and many people would like to have someone to share their life with. The law of attraction can help you with this as long as you know how to do this. Many people make the mistake of thinking that the law of attraction will only help them to attract material things in their life.Using the law of attraction to generate real romance will start with you and your feelings and emotions that you have about love. You have to start first with the belief that you can attract romance and that you do deserve to feel this way in your life. Beliefs are powerful and we tend to attract what we expect to in life and in love.KNOW YOU CAN AND KNOW WHAT YOU WANT...Knowing that you can do something, no matter what it is lifts whatever blocks that you may have in place within your own mind. When you truly believe that you can do something, you can find a way. You also have to know what you want. Romance and relationships are such general terms. The more specific that you can be, the more clear you will be on knowing what you want.Most people know right off hand what they do not want, but have a hard time of declaring what they do want.Know that you can attract a real romance and that the law of attraction can help you to do this. Understand that you are the key to achieving what you want. http://www.cineromance.com/article/listing/443/articledetail.aspx Do you do what you say you are going to do? If you've been told by your partner that you can't be counted on, learn why nothing is more important than your words and actions matching.1. Do you promise to do something and then just not do it? Do you realize someone is counting on you? This particular issue causes much unhappiness in relationships.This is a character issue, not a relationship issue, and behavior that influences every part of your life, your work as well as your relationships. Saying you are going to do something and just not doing it is abusive behavior.2. When you don't keep your word, do you make excuses?The only thing worse than breaking your word is making excuses for why you didn't do what you said you were going to do. Making excuses makes you feel worse about yourself.Making excuses, regardless of what they are, never makes it okay. 3. Do you have a cavalier attitude about keeping your word? Do you understand that keeping your word is about class and integrity? Do you dismiss your partner's reaction as being angry and hysterical rather than focusing on your own behavior? Do you feel that not keeping your word is just something that happens? If so, you are not taking responsibility for this abusive behavior. 4. Do you often end up lying about what really happened? Is lying one of ways you squirm out of situations when you have not done what you said you were going to do? Lying about the situation makes it worse. Tell the truth and take the heat. At some point, unless you step up and take responsibility for this behavior, nothing will ever change.5. Does your partner say that she/he cannot count on you? If this is something you hear, you need to listen up. You need to be accountable - Nothing is more attractive. Do NOT say you are going to do something if you are not going to do it. http://www.cineromance.com/article/listing/442/articledetail.aspx With the internet access that is available today, it is no wonder that so many magazines are available to read online. It used to be, that if you wanted to read a magazine, you had to purchase it from the store and bring it home to read. Now, you can read your favorite magazine anytime - online. It's free, it's easy, and it's the way people read magazines, and other forms of media, today.Parenting magazines have become more and more popular over the years, helping new parents, and old-pros alike, get through the child-rearing years. There are personal stories in parenting magazines, from parents who find themselves in the same predicaments, parents that may have the same questions as the readers, tips from the experts, and advertisements for the latest products in parenting. All this info is at your fingertips today, rather than only waiting for you at the store. The Parenting Magazines online are just as informative, and just as interesting as if you had the magazine sitting in your lap. The online magazines are just another way of accessing the information. What's nice, is if a parent has a question they want an answer to quickly, they have the ability to check, and cross reference several publications, all at once. And this way, a parent avoids having to purchase several different magazines at the store.Another nice feature about Parenting Magazines online, is sometimes parents only want to read one of the articles they saw advertised in the magazine. With the magazines online, they don't want to have to purchase the entire publication and feel like they wasted their money. That is why having access to the internet is helpful, you can simply type in the name of the magazine you are interested in, and instantly, you have the ability to read however much, or however little, you want. You can even go back again and again, or read other, updated articles, all without having to make the trip to the local store to do it.Some of the Parenting Magazines that are found online are:* Parenting and Baby Talk * Pregnancy * Baby Namer * Baby * The Sleep SolutionAnd many more....The internet opens up a whole world to people who want fast, easy, and cost efficiency ways of accessing publications. We can find just about anything there is on the web, even answers to our parenting questions, which is wonderful, especially since parents do not always want to, nor have the ability to jump in the car and run to the closest store to buy the magazine they want to read. Why go through all the trouble when the ability to read-up on all the latest news in parenting is right at your fingertips? Online Parenting Magazines are a great way to help those busy parents who can barely find the time to take a shower. http://www.cineromance.com/article/listing/441/articledetail.aspx